In preparation of Mother’s Day approaching, I decided to take a detour on my blog and talk a little bit of my personal life. I try my best to incorporate personal life when talking about my latest looks, but when I have a chance to detour a bit I’m all in 🙂 Last year I did a post of what mom’s really want for mother’s day. This time around I want to talk about all my learning experiences I’ve had as a mom. Now before I start, this isn’t a post condoning teenage pregnancy or teenage motherhood in general. But it happens. And it happened to me. I became a mother at 17. Not planed, obviously. I like to see it more as how my life was planned for me. Without her, my life wouldn’t be what it is. And I wouldn’t be who I am today.
On top of that, I also got married and started a family young. But being a young mom has taught me more than what I could have imagined. I thought it would be fun to share what I’ve learned as a young mom that I am positive any mom can relate to.
It’s Hard, But I Wouldn’t Change A Single Thing
Saying it’s hard isn’t near as hard as what it actually was and still is. I like to refer to the quote “being a mom is not about what you gave up to have a child, but you have gained from having one”. Yes, I had to get 3 jobs to support my baby while other kids my age were thinking about what to wear to the next school dance. Yes, I gave up the thought of going to college right after high school because I needed to provide my child with the best I could give her and I simply couldn’t afford both. But even though I had to give up so much, I would give them up in a heartbeat and do it all over again. It showed me that I am capable of so much. And having her just added to my strength. Its that supermom power!
We All Loose Our Shit
I never met a mom who has it all together. Not once. I’ve met moms who “pretend” to have it together. But I mean… a mom who REALLY has it together. Never. And why? Because she doesn’t exist. Whether you’re a young struggling mom or became a mom at 38 when you had a more stable life, it’s all the same. There will come a point where you just loose it. You loose your shit because its hard and you love them at the same time. And thats okay. You weren’t made to be prefect.
We Grew Up Together
I’ve learned so much about life through them. Is it silly to say we kind of both grew up together? Because we kinda did. While they were learning how to walk, I was learning what it takes to actually be a women! While they were learning how to make sense of the world, I was learning my place in this world.
You Learn How To Juggle At A Young Age
What takes years to learn, you had the pleasure of learning it sooner. You juggle jobs, daycare/school stuff like a pro. You got this!
Other Moms Aren’t As Judgmental As You Thought
It’s because we all get it. I remember taking all 3 of my kids to target when they were younger and praying no one decides to perform a shit show, because I wouldn’t allow them to get naked and run the aisles. Or not getting them those stupid toys they put by the register (rolling eye emoji) which lead to a complete nervous breakdown for them. I swear I would do a mental preparation before these outings. Even doing a little yoga to be in a zen mood. Did that work? Nope! But I was surprise to see other shit shows happening and no mom mean looks given to me.
But If You Do Get Judge, Keep Doing You Boo
Guess what? Who cares if get the side eye because your kid is bing a kid! It happens. Some of those judging may have no children themselves. Others think because they babysat 5 times in their teenage years they know about kids. Probably more than you, otherwise your kid wouldn’t act like that. Others may already be grandparents and sort of forgotten that kids are kids. I remember one specific time I was walking with my oldest in the stroller and some guy literally stops his car and tells me “wow kids having kids. I hope she doesn’t become a mom as young as you”. My first reaction was, “thanks captain obvious! Never thought of that”. And my second thought was to keep it moving. Did he pissed me off? Absolutely! Was his advice even necessary? No. But he had no idea what my life was about nor does he pay my bills. Just keep doing you, boo!
The Hustle To Improve
You always want to be better in every aspect of your life, because if you get better, your family dynamic gets better. So you cross those goals one by one! Even if it takes you 5 years to do what it would have taken others 2 years… still go for it. Because once you accomplish it, it will mean much more than you ever thought. You know those little faces deserve it the best version of yourself!
What is one lesson you’ve learned from being a mom?
Any exciting plans this weekend? How are you spending your mother’s day? I am hoping for a day of relaxation with some fun thrown in the mix. Tonight my son friends will be coming over for a birthday sleepover, which means crazy, crazy, and CRAZY! So I am hopping Sunday can be a more chill day for me. Enjoy the weekend,
Back to feature bloggers from our Weekend Wear Linkup!! Aside from baby pictures, my other favorite type of pictures are engagement photos. There’s something special about seeing two people totally in love. Melanie from Melanie Stanton looks gorgeous in her engagement photos! That dress is everything. Make sure you stop by her post and say hi 🙂