What mom doesn’t carry mom guilt? Everyone is pretty much aboard on this crazy train where you try your absolute hardest to do what you need to do, what you want to do, and what people depend on you to do. It’s hard! You need to work, want to schedule an appointment to get a pedicure and figure out how to make your kid a healthy dinner they would even like. And what happens to our mom brain? We give and give because if we don’t mom guilt hits us hard.
I have the pleasure of creating my own work schedule. Setting the dates and times I want to work. But it isn’t as picture perfect. Sometimes I have to go to work even when I said I was off and other times I bring work home with me. Some days I make a schedule where I try to make time for everything and nothing gets accomplished. I’m running from place to place not really being productive in anyway. Then night time comes and all the mom guilt starts rubbing through my mind. Why? Who knows! I’m trying to do it all like that supermom even exist.
I’m a true believer in happy mom equals a happy family. I believe in putting myself first in order to be better in everything I do. Even though I know this, I still suffer from the occasional mom guilt. Our society play moms to be this superhero who does it all with a smile in her face. And regardless of what’s thrown at her, she handles it like a mom boss. But life throws curve balls. I found myself going through this these past few weeks.
Boss Mom Guilt of Brining Work Home
Sometimes I honestly only have a couple of hours away from home to do my job. And some days there isn’t enough time to do it all. So what is a girl to do? Bring work home. I feel guilty that they have me home but I’m not always really present.
Boss Mom Guilt of Missing Out
It’s funny, but my kids are pretty much outgrown all their “first” stage. Saying their first word, walk… let’s be real… my youngest is 9. Yet I feel guilty that I’m missing out on their younger years. I don’t want to be older and feel like I’ve missed out on so much.
Boss Mom Guilt of Loosing My Temper
You ever seen that meme on FB that says “if you hear me yelling like a mad women don’t be alarm, its that my kids finally listened to me after I asked them 10 times to do something”. It’s true! And yes its only human nature after telling someone 10 times to do something and it isn’t done, that your voice may be loud. Yet, I still feel guilty. Why can’t I be that soft spoken mom?
Boss Mom Guilt of Taking Them to Work With Me
Its summer guys and school is out. Sometimes we don’t have a babysitter and unfortunately they have to spend some hours with me at work. I feel bad they have to come with me and be bored. Because there is nothing fun about going to work with mom at a boutique when you’re 9. And specially if you’re boy with no interest in fashion.
Boss Mom Guilt of Not Being a Chef
In case I never shared, I hate cooking and every aspect of it. But sometimes I feel guilty and a tad bit jealous I don’t cut their chicken into dinosaurs and make homemade ketchup or anything organic. Let’s just put it like this, the other day I tired using my crockpot I’ve had as a wedding gift from many moons ago for the first time. I made chicken and instead of putting it to cook, I put it to warm… see where I’m going here?!
Mom Guilt of Wanting Something More Than Just Being a Mom
I love being a mom, I truly do! But I never saw my life as just a mom. I have too many dreams that include things other than being a mother. But sometimes I have guilt of being okay with that. My kids will only be young for so long. But I also have so many goals I want to crush in my life.
Mom Guilt of Not Being Enough
Why can I be that mom that works, takes care of her kids, make full on meals and is always happy. I am making the right choices? And where is that balance? Sometimes I feel like I on top of the world, rocking in every aspect of my life. Other times I can’t balance making myself lunch.
I share this with you today, because I want you to know you’re not alone. Maybe reading this will help you understand that we all experience some type of guilt, regardless of what type of mom you are. But I want you to know as real as these thoughts feel, they don’t define you as a mom. We are strive to be better and I honestly think we get better everyday. We are those supermoms! Not the one that has that picture perfect life, but the one that even though goes through these emotions, never gives up. We may not be Becky with the good hair baking organic cookies in her spotless kitchen, but we are still are good moms!!
When they are older they’ll know mom brought work home because sometimes that’s life. She rushed home to feed us, take care of us and before heading to bed, she took her laptop out and finished what she started. They’ll know she always thought of them day and night and loved them so much, she never wanted to miss anything they did. They’ll know she only lost her temper because she’s human and we all loose our shit at times. They’ll know she tried her best but yet had to take us to work because she’s a boss mom and never gave up on her dreams. They’ll know she may not have been the best cook, but made those frozen chicken nuggets like we were from a 4 star restaurant in Paris. They’ll know that it’s okay to follow your heart and the reason she checked those career goals was to teach us we are capable of doing anything we set our mind to do. They’ll know she was enough, because if she didn’t care why would she beat herself about not being good a good mom. They’ll know I LOVE them regardless!
Just because we feel guilty about not being a good mom doesn’t mean we aren’t. Sometimes we need to check ourselves!!