What I’ve Learned in my 10 Year Marriage

Hi loves,

Today me and my husband are celebrating 10 years of marriage! 10 years seem so insane. In a way, it almost doesn’t even feel like 10 years have gone by, yet at the same time it feels like we’ve been together forever (in a good way of course). 10 years being married isn’t always easy or good. There has definitely been times were it was hard, there were bad days. I remember in the early years we both weren’t sure we’ll make it. No one ever expects it, sometimes it sneaks right to you. Somehow, someway we fought through it and years later here we still standing. Still fighting to make our love, our bond strong.

Since we are celebrating 10 years since our wedding day, what better way to celebrate than by sharing with you what I’ve learned in my 10 year marriage!

Night Night

If I am pissed, I will go to bed mad. I know some say never to go to bed angry, well neither one of us are that type of person. Sometimes I am too tired to battle a disagreement and will sleep on it. Next day you have a clear mindset or even a different view of the situation. Besides, I believe some disagreement are better resolved without being in the heat of the moment!

I Am Me Because of Me

Of course when you’re in a relationship, you want to better yourself not only for you, but for your partner. In reality though… he doesn’t make me who I am. I don’t make him who he is. I know when you get married you become “one”, but that’s BS! I am who I am, because I choose to be this way. My action aren’t based on him… good or bad.

Be Selfish

I know… I said it! Why should you be selfish? Because you’re a human. You always have to come first before anyone. Take time for yourself. Do hoodies you enjoy doing. Have goals that are solely for you and about you. Just because your a couple doesn’t mean everything you do has to be together. You can’t loose yourself in your marriage.

Always Plan “Our” Time

Date as much as you can. Life tends to get in the way. You can easily find yourself wrapped up in work, family, housework… everything! The last thing you want to become are roommates. Take time to just be you two. Remembering what made you fall in love with that person and why your still in love. Plan vacations just the two of you, weekend getaway, go for a walk, movie nights in your bed. It doesn’t always have to be something so glam, even something simple you both enjoy and that it’s just about the two of you!

Communication

This is the key to every relationship! If there’s no communication then there’s nothing. I know this can be easier said than done. Sometimes its hard to tell your partner what you’re REALLY thinking. Express how you feel. What you like. What you don’t like. What you’re thinking. What you need. What pissed you off.

Don’t Forget About Intimacy

Sex is not all of it, but a marriage definitely needs it! You need that bond only the two of you can create.

First Years Are the Hardest

Who knew a paper (wedding certificate) can change your relationship? It’s the truth! I am not sure what makes those years the hardest, but they definitely are! Add building a family into the mix and it sure as heck be crazy. I promise, it will get better!

Laugh Your Ass Off

Humor is an essential! Laugh your butt off every moment you can!! I’m usually the joker in my relationship, I like to be silly, don’t take myself too serious all the time. And why? Because life is hard. Laughter is hard to resist. It rubs off!

It Doesn’t Really Matter Who’s Right

I know this one is a tough one for me, I have to admit 😉 But at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter who is right. What matter is how to get back on track

Commitment & Hard Work

I don’t want to sound like it’s a job, but its something that requires two people really trying their best to make it work! Its not something that requires your input once a week, its an everyday commitment!!

I say we have both learned and grown a lot through these years! In no way am I a relationship expert. In no way are we prefect or have the prefect marriage. Sometimes you get knocked down and have to remember all these lessons all over agin. But if it’s worth to fight for it, then babes fight for it!

These pictures are from last year, so this cute romper maxi is sold out. I’ve linked similar options down below!

Dress: Bella V Boutique (sold out) – similar – similar – similar – similar  ||  Sandals: Target  ||  Earrings: Target (old) – identical